how can one draw the line between being "needed" and being "used"?

i was talking with my friend last night, and she says, "it's all based on context, where you're coming from".

true. it does vary.

people would argue that it all depends on your willingness to give; or the manner of which it is called for; or possibly the person it's referring to. it would probably depend on the relationship you have with the person or persons involved. but it's all just beside the point.

i want to be needed than just be used. don't get me wrong, i'd still do the same in a heartbeat for the latter, but it's nicer to be assured of your significance. i guess it's more a question of significance, of value. i want to be thought of even in the midst of normal, boring days; to be invited for the spontaneity of things, not the necessity of it.

sometimes i worry that i wouldn't have as much people around if i didn't do what i do. it sounds terribly emo, i know, but feelings are valid right? they exist for a reason, and more often than not are good indicators of trouble. i'm not saying i'm in trouble though. and i'm not saying that i'm overworked or everyone should stop asking for my help. as i've said, i'd gladly do it, no questions asked.

i'm not asking for too much, right?


(good lord. sorry, my mind's just on emo-mode. hope you don't mind the ranting.)